Standing Beside Someone with a Mental Illness One of the most popular things I’ve written here is a piece called, Saying Goodbye to Someone with a Mental Illness. I think this piece is very important as it highlights the fact that you can’t stand beside someone just because they have a mental illness. Sometimes it’s simply an unworkable situation and you have to take care of yourself by putting some distance between you and the person with the mental illness. Leaving Someone with a Mental Illness Unfortunately, some people took this as an indication that I believe that you should leave people with a mental illness. Loving Someone with a Mental Illness Nothing could be farther from the truth, of course. The vast majority of people with a mental illness are people just like everyone else and are completely reasonable with which to be in a relationship (of whatever type).